When I was going through hell earlier this year, I did not hesitate to let everyone know. My first statement was "If you're thinking I am posting this for your pity and attention, you are right!" LMAO. If there was ever a moment I needed to be surrounded by my tribe, it was that moment when I was mentally struggling. I shamelessly sounded the alarm of despair, and they quickly surrounded me, like the elephants do when one of them seems to be in danger.
I believe I am a very independent individual. But I am also weak at times and need my community to carry me for a while. I think we sometimes forget that as imperfect as we are, as humans, we are also fascinating and complicated. We are multifaceted with the ability to be strong and weak at the same time. But we tend to get stuck in the "strong" mode, and pity becomes a four-letter word.
Here is a quote from my ebook How to Throw the Perfect Pity Party:
In a world where “pity” is a dirty word and expressing our vulnerability is seen as attention-seeking behavior, we sometimes hide or ignore our feelings in hopes of fitting in with society. As a result, we subconsciously begin to view certain emotions as toxic or negative.
I would like to thank my tribe for their pity. You gave me a safe space to be vulnerable and rest my weary head. I hope I will have the same pity for you in your time of need.
Your Student, Teacher, and Friend
MOXIE
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